tdb2: fix coalesce race #2

tdb2: fix coalesce race #2

When we find a free block, we need to mark it as used before we drop the
free lock, even though we've removed it from the list.  Otherwise the
coalescing code can find it.

This means handing the information we need down to lock_and_alloc, which
also means we know when we're grabbing a "growing" entry, and can relax
the heuristics about finding a good-sized block in that case.